I made a promise to my father to not be in a relationship but I love my BF. What to do is it good to break the promise?
Now here comes the matter of love. So let's talk about love, but parents first. Yes, we should always put parents first. When it comes to comparing them to your lover. There is no comparison of parents though.
So now let's talk about it. Love is such a thing that can happen to anyone at any time. It is definitely a beautiful feeling when someone is in love.
You have promised your father, but you fell in love even though you did not want to. Now you are confused about whether it is good to break a promise or not. Right?
So the first thing is :
Do not feel guilty: Surely you have fallen in love and now it must be difficult to stop him, from coming into your mind. But the promise made to the father would also come to mind again and again and in this affair, there is estrangement in the mind. Confusion of the mind begins as if the flowing current has turned upside down.
A person does not understand anything. In the end, it seems like breaking a promise to the father is like committing a sin. The first thing is that there is no sin here. Now that you love your boyfriend. So it would be better not to weigh your feelings on the scales of good and bad.
Don't break promises made to your father: When made a promise to your father to not be in a relationship. So maybe you must have felt it like a kind of restriction. It is as if a chirping bird has been imprisoned in a cage and its freedom has been taken away. But is it really so. No. If the father has forbidden you for something. He must have said it out of your interest.
Our parents are more experienced than us. They have seen more ups and downs than us. They don't want us to divert our attention from our careers. A good future defines the key to success. Surely your father will also wish for your welfare. They will also want you to illuminate their name, reach the heights of success.
Maybe this must have been the reason why he thought of your interest first. Now that you have promised your father. So make that promise a weapon and use it to get on your way to success.
Don't lie to your parents: You must be aware that how many sacrifices your parents must have done for you. When your parents start building bridges of expectations from you. They start expecting from you that you will live up to their expectations.
But you put your full attention on your love life and tell them that you are focusing on studies. So, aren't you lying? If you meet your BF by lying, and instead of studying, you spend all the time talking with him. So aren't you deceiving yourself?
It would be good that you should talk to your father. Share your dreams and your plans. Be an ideal daughter.
Putting your love life aside. You can throw yourself in the ocean of hard work. When you will get success in any field. Then you will not have any regrets about your decisions.
Be focused on your goals: You can be determined to achieve your destination by keeping your love in your heart and your goals in your mind. When you build your career and reach such a point that you feel you are self-dependent. Then you can tell your father about your boyfriend. By doing this, you will keep the promise you made to your father, and you will be able to bring the love of your life.
Make sure that your relationship doesn't affect your career: If your relationship is negatively affecting your studies and your life and because of this your marks are getting lower. Then, aren't you doing wrong with yourself? Maybe this is also the reason you made a promise to your father to not be in a relationship. To love someone is not bad but to deceive yourself is bad.
Stop the attachment of the relationship from turning into an obsession, and don't let it hinder your career.
Don't cross limits in a relationship: Father is completely unaware of who has come into your life but, you should not do any such thing that your father has to be humiliated. Don't do anything that you will regret later. You can limit your relationship to friendship until you make your career.
Be frank with your father: You can tell your father that you have a male friend who is helpful and also a good boy. By telling your heart, you can lighten the burden of your mind.
Introduce your boyfriend to your dad: You can introduce your BF to your father as a friend. You can tell him that you both help each other in studying and making a career. How good it would be that your boyfriend becomes your father's friend too?
Share your future plan with your mother: If your boyfriend brings a good change in your life. If you are not facing any obstacles in achieving the goal of your life. Then you can discuss your future plans with your mother, that you want to marry your boyfriend after getting success in the future, and you can ask your mother to help you. Your mother will definitely help you in spreading new light in this darkness.
Conclusion:
It is not right to break the promise's made to the father, but some decisions of life have to be taken by the person himself. If you are not mature enough then take your mother's help. By limiting the relationship to friendship till you make your career. You will be able to keep the promise made to your father and will not even break your BF's heart.
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